Dependency & Self Regulation

Through the lens of attachment, it started to make sense. When we don’t learn how to feel safe, soothed, or regulated as children, we grow up looking for that safety in others because it was never demonstrated to us by secure and stable adults. 

Children don’t come into this world knowing how to self-regulate. It is learned from parents and care givers through demonstration and consistency.

If that wasn’t available to us, we attach, we adapt, we reach…trying to recreate the sense of stability we weren’t able to build in our early years. 

Breathwork changed that.

It showed me the tension I was holding, the fear, the quiet urge to reach outside of myself. I saw how often I abandoned myself in an attempt not to be abandoned by others.